Saying No

12/19/2015

Like features we want to add to a product, so are the demands of our friends and family – plenty.

Had a few too many. Not the number of drinks last night, but the many "friends" we accumulated as children versus the "optional family" we have chosen to keep as adults. Select those who mirror your values, but challenge your opinions. 1bourbon>3beers

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superior paper link

10/9/2016 02:51:06 pm

Friends are easy to find but to know your real friends is harder and it may take a lot of time to figure out. We should be careful in choosing our friends because it can make our break our lives. I had some friends who were only there for me in times of need, but are not around when I needed them. True friends struggle with you when you are down and lifts you up as long as they can. Keep your real friends and be the real friend that you can be to others.

Redd King

7/26/2017 04:30:50 pm

Hey Superior paper, thank you so much for responding! I have been out due to a back injury. The blog is now live! I will be logging on everyday to respond!
"A friend in need is a friend indeed." I am personally not the type of person that needs to see my friends all the time, not only because our schedules don't allow it, but I truly believe when we work on ourselves and become the type of friend we want to have, we will start attracting those type of friends. Attract and maintain are different however. You can attract many, but only maintain a couple. In order to maintain, takes a lot of effort i.e. sticking by your side through thick and thin. Those who "leave" and are "not there" for you are not necessarily bad friends. From a different angle, they can be giving you space to grow, to become more independent. I had to break off 2 friendships this year. One which the other party was becoming too dependent on me only after meeting for 1 year and the other one which I was becoming too dependent on the other party after 12 years. At the end of the day is about core values and how much effort each person puts in. I truly believe I put in a healthy level of effort into each friendship and if I did anymore, I would have had compromised my values. It's hard to make new friends at this age, but it is even harder to maintain a friendship that is no longer helping you grow as a person. It was a necessary "cleanse." I know those 2 friends (especially the one that became too dependent on me) had their own things to work on as well. Perhaps we'll reconnect in the future. For the time being, just focus on you :)

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